Last week, I wrote about Why you deserve to be happy and questions to ask yourself if you’re not. So what happens if you decide you’re NOT happy in your current work situation and you want to change it? The very thought can be overwhelming to a lot of moms: we have children to support, and some of us are single parents. We also have to consider what will work for our families; if this job doesn’t allow me to have a good work/family balance, what will? What does that look like for me? Since I have already shared my journey to “having it all”, I wanted to share a success story with you from Kelly, who had a tough decision to make last summer.
Stacy has an 18 month old daughter, and was shocked by how much becoming a mom changed her life. Before becoming a mom, Stacy had always been very successful in her career – when she found out she was pregnant, she was just about to begin working on her dissertation for her PhD. Needless to say, becoming a mom put those plans on hold. Stacy found herself torn between wanting to continue moving forward in her career and missing her daughter terribly during the day. She said she was afraid that she would miss her daughter’s childhood. Stacy was working outside the home, and didn’t feel like she was fulfilling her potential professionally. Worse, she was bringing a lot of work home, and was so tired at the end of the day that she often fell asleep reading bedtime stories to her daughter. She had no time with her husband, or for herself. She wasn’t exercising or making time for relaxation and re-charging.
Stacy came to me needing to make a quick decision about whether to return to her current job for another year. Though she didn’t want to go back, she wasn’t exactly sure what she would do instead, or how she and her husband would pay the bills in the meantime. She also wasn’t sure about how or when to finish her dissertation. Together, we looked at her goals for all areas of her life, prioritized and created a workable action plan.
In the end, she made peace with returning to her current job for one more year, but was able to create a plan for transitioning to working part-time, which would allow her time to spend with her daughter AND finish her dissertation. Also, she’s making time to walk outside every day, has gone for a couple of hikes with her husband, and has successfully transitioned to having her daughter sleep in her own room – no more falling asleep during story time! I am amazed by the progress Stacy made so quickly and wanted to share her story to inspire more moms to find that balance. Please join me in congratulating her accomplishments – way to go, Stacy!